Too many people these days depend on whether or not they’re in a relationship to decide if they’re happy or not. This is one of the biggest mistakes you can ever make for both yourself and the future of your relationship. You’ll find out rather quickly that if you rely on the actions of your partner to “make” you happy that your emotions will stay in constant movement much like riding a roller coaster.
Couples in successful relationships understand this concept. They don’t depend on each other for their own personal happiness. Instead, each of them does things that they enjoy and makes them happy independently of each other. This is the key to true personal happiness. Do what you like and get involved in things that make you feel good and energetic. Don’t expect your partner to figure out how to keep you happy. That never works out.
Granted, if you and your partner aren’t happy being together, or one of you has done something to damage the relationship, it’s no surprise that you’ll feel unhappy about this. However, it’s the event that’s made you sad or angry, not your partner. Your partner isn’t a mind reader and cannot tell exactly what they need to be doing at all times so that you’ll never be unhappy. That’s not realistic and people that hook up with someone just because they believe this is what will give them the happiness that they’ve been missing out on will be sorely disappointed.
Couples that are independently happy typically end up making each other happy as partners. Neither of them has anything to prove and simply don’t spend a lot of time sitting around questioning whether or not they’ve made their partner happy. They just enjoy feeling happy and let things take their natural course. That’s the way to keep your relationship moving in the right direction.
Someone that’s so emotional that they take every little comment their partner makes to the heart is never going to be completely happy. These are the people that are continuously waiting for their partner to notice things such as a new hairstyle or outfit. When the partner doesn’t immediately acknowledge the change, it’s blown all out of proportion. Give your partner time to assess the new you and make the appropriate comments.
Stop assuming things regarding your partner. Even though both of you have a lot in common, you’re not always going to move totally in synch with each other. Give your partner room to breathe and accept it when they grant you the same. It’s healthy to lead a life outside of the relationship as long as it’s not interfering with the core of the relationship.
You’re the only one that can make you happy. Sure, you can say that you’re happy to be with someone, or even that your partner makes you happy. However, what that doesn’t mean is that you’re totally depending on your partner to keep the happiness alive within you. Make yourself happy and the rest will all fall right into place.